Perfect, you found the words so well when you’re going through so much. I think a large part of the world is holding you all in its arms, especially those kids we feel like we grew up with. I’m glad you all sense that. You’re all so loved.
Among the sadness today, what popped into my head but “SHINGLES!’ Heather in that sequined dress on the roof repeating the word in various ways, speaking in ALL CAPS with the exclamation point and jazz hands in long gloves. That memory brought a smile to my face and now I’ve been saying SHINGLES! to myself all day. ❤️ A light in the dark.
Beautifully said, Liz. I have been thinking of your family nonstop this week, and thinking of that has made me think about an era in my life that has been over for a while now. I suspect so much of what the community is processing is tied up in their own personal experiences -- things we feel about what we wrote, or what we didn't. What we knew about any of us, what we thought we knew, what it means to be someone who writes about themselves and their family on the Internet. I know I am so much more private than I was then. We existed in that space at a unique time in history, and history will learn from all of our mistakes as well as our triumphs. xo xo
Perfectly said Rita. Most of life is just making shit up as we go along, and this was no different. Judging from the fact that so many of us are still in touch, talking to each other, learning from each other, leaning on each other for support, I would say something pretty great came out of it all.
May 13, 2023·edited May 13, 2023Liked by Liz Gumbinner
Firstly, been thinking of you, Jon and your children all week long and feel so much comfort that you have each other. Sending so much love your way.
Secondly, and maybe this is the wrong time to say this but, as you noted on instagram, everything feels wrong in the wake of something like this... Still, I feel compelled to tell you that you have been a lighthouse on a stormy sea for me when it comes to being an online writer dealing with the extremely complex issues surrounding co-parenting in the wake of a difficult, public divorce. I have always taken my cues from you and you have consistently embodied grace and class for a solid decade. I suspect there have been many times when it has been difficult to say nothing and yet you have always, always taken the high road, which is what needs to be done, especially when there are children involved. Older children who are also online reading everything. Something I feel like we adults often forget during times like this. Be mindful what you write, people. The kids are reading.
So, thank you infinity for that, Liz. In modeling myself after you as best I can, you have not only saved me a lot of regret and grief, but my children too.
Once again, I’m finding myself at loss for the right words. Wow. I’ll just say there have been a lot of things that made me cry over the last few days, and now I count your comment among them. So, thank you. Thank you. ❤️
For what it is worth, I think what you have said here is perfect for these moments. Much love to all of you.
I so appreciate how you say exactly what you mean - and it always comes from a place of kindness and love. I agree - this is perfect.
Perfect, you found the words so well when you’re going through so much. I think a large part of the world is holding you all in its arms, especially those kids we feel like we grew up with. I’m glad you all sense that. You’re all so loved.
Among the sadness today, what popped into my head but “SHINGLES!’ Heather in that sequined dress on the roof repeating the word in various ways, speaking in ALL CAPS with the exclamation point and jazz hands in long gloves. That memory brought a smile to my face and now I’ve been saying SHINGLES! to myself all day. ❤️ A light in the dark.
This is an honest response to a tragic loss. Thank you for your humanity.
Beautifully said, Liz. I have been thinking of your family nonstop this week, and thinking of that has made me think about an era in my life that has been over for a while now. I suspect so much of what the community is processing is tied up in their own personal experiences -- things we feel about what we wrote, or what we didn't. What we knew about any of us, what we thought we knew, what it means to be someone who writes about themselves and their family on the Internet. I know I am so much more private than I was then. We existed in that space at a unique time in history, and history will learn from all of our mistakes as well as our triumphs. xo xo
Perfectly said Rita. Most of life is just making shit up as we go along, and this was no different. Judging from the fact that so many of us are still in touch, talking to each other, learning from each other, leaning on each other for support, I would say something pretty great came out of it all.
Firstly, been thinking of you, Jon and your children all week long and feel so much comfort that you have each other. Sending so much love your way.
Secondly, and maybe this is the wrong time to say this but, as you noted on instagram, everything feels wrong in the wake of something like this... Still, I feel compelled to tell you that you have been a lighthouse on a stormy sea for me when it comes to being an online writer dealing with the extremely complex issues surrounding co-parenting in the wake of a difficult, public divorce. I have always taken my cues from you and you have consistently embodied grace and class for a solid decade. I suspect there have been many times when it has been difficult to say nothing and yet you have always, always taken the high road, which is what needs to be done, especially when there are children involved. Older children who are also online reading everything. Something I feel like we adults often forget during times like this. Be mindful what you write, people. The kids are reading.
So, thank you infinity for that, Liz. In modeling myself after you as best I can, you have not only saved me a lot of regret and grief, but my children too.
So much love.
Once again, I’m finding myself at loss for the right words. Wow. I’ll just say there have been a lot of things that made me cry over the last few days, and now I count your comment among them. So, thank you. Thank you. ❤️
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