I am that person...I remember vividly every time that not only I was embarrassed in real time, but when I embarrassed by myself later thinking about my actions or words or behaviors. In other words, I remember both bullying words people said to me in 6th grade and bullying words I said to someone else in 8th grade. It's not awesome.
I read The Power of Regret by Daniel Pink in the last couple of years, and it really resonated with me.
I listened to it on audio after hearing him guest on a couple of podcasts I listen to. I've never read any of his other work. (I think I always confused him with the shirt maker to be honest.) I found it worthwhile because it validated that regret serves a purpose that we can tap into, which I agree with. (I hate the "no regrets, because everything has led me to this moment philosophy, personally.) And also because I'm a nerd I really appreciated the data he had interviewing thousands of people worldwide about what they regret and why...super instructive. My main takeaway that I remind myself a lot when I beat myself up is that most people end up regretting what they didn't do, more than what they did do.
I am that person...I remember vividly every time that not only I was embarrassed in real time, but when I embarrassed by myself later thinking about my actions or words or behaviors. In other words, I remember both bullying words people said to me in 6th grade and bullying words I said to someone else in 8th grade. It's not awesome.
I read The Power of Regret by Daniel Pink in the last couple of years, and it really resonated with me.
Is it worth reading? Sometimes I’m worried that it will open up a lot of stuff!
(of course that is probably the point!)
I listened to it on audio after hearing him guest on a couple of podcasts I listen to. I've never read any of his other work. (I think I always confused him with the shirt maker to be honest.) I found it worthwhile because it validated that regret serves a purpose that we can tap into, which I agree with. (I hate the "no regrets, because everything has led me to this moment philosophy, personally.) And also because I'm a nerd I really appreciated the data he had interviewing thousands of people worldwide about what they regret and why...super instructive. My main takeaway that I remind myself a lot when I beat myself up is that most people end up regretting what they didn't do, more than what they did do.